God Will Not Punish Him

Bimbola Tayo Bamidele

"I am finding it hard to forgive him. I have cursed him and I know he will suffer for everything he did to me. God will punish him... bla bla bla." She lamented.

I smiled.

I chuckled.

I laughed.

I have often been told that I am harsh, which I rarely deny.

But I know I do not cause anyone harm with my being harsh, when I need to be,... even when I hurt them with it.

The opening paragraph was a lamentation from a younger friend of mine who believed an injustice has been done to her and who is now calling on the God of vengeance to arise and let His enemies be scattered, on her behalf. (I have her permission to share this here)

She had been in a relationship with this guy for three years. She had contributed a quota to the guy's current status in life. All of a sudden, bro said he is no longer interested. It even led to a thorough beating from the guy at some point, because she was demanding for a "hearing".

I told her that God will not punish the guy for anything. And that her curse is not going to affect him one bit. There is nothing she also shouldn't forgive for; he owes her nothing. The guy never forced her to do anything for him; she did all that she did willingly. He is responsible for his life and has a right to determine who he wants in his life; she was the one who has acted unthoughtfully and foolishly.

I asked her why she is calling God to punish him. Did God send her into his life in the first place? If God did, then she can go back to God and make a report. And even at that, she has no right to curse him.

I was into a three years relationship and after our formal introduction, two months to the fixed wedding date, when i had already sent a bulk sms inviting friends and family to my "wedding", this guy came up with some story to say he was no
longer interested in the relationship.

I was hurt; but I never felt he wasted my time neither did I feel he disappointed me in any way. I didn't feel he owed me anything. I had no
business with him. I just went straight to the God that sent me into the relationship in the first place, to make my report, to ask questions, and to receive fresh instructions on the way forward.

Before someone begins to think that I was not committed to the relationship was why I found it easy to move on, I beg to differ. The reason I found it easy to move on, was because I didn't run my own errand when I went into the relationship; I was running God's errand. Everything I was responsible for in his life or contributed to, was not on my errand; but God's. So, I didn't feel like he cheated me, wasted my time, deceived me or disappointed me. It is between him and God. Mine too was between God and I. He owed me no explanations; God did. I said yes to him because God led me to. If he says he is not "doing" again, I go back to that same God.

I told this young friend of mine that if my husband wakes up one morning and says he is not interested in our marriage anymore, life goes on with me and nothing will change negatively about me (God forbid, anyway)

(Before someone begins to think that the reason I am talking like this is because hubby and I are not close or that I don't love him, it is not true. This lady visited my home and saw the love hubby and I share; it is so visible and palpable, you can almost touch it.)

See, women have to realize that if they are in any man's life, they are there on an assignment ...not to be a burden. Women are resourceful, rich, complete and whole. They need no man to complete them; they are the ones who need to complete man. What they need is God to define them and reveal His purpose for their lives to them. It was God Eve knew and it was God who brought Eve to Adam. The Bible says, it is not good for man to be alone, so God created you and I to complete man. No wonder he that finds you and I finds a good thing and obtains favour from the Lord. We are the ones who adds favour to their lives. We are the ones they can't do without; not the other way round. And this has nothing to do with struggling to win their favour; but with just being a woman who fears the Lord and who conducts her affairs with wisdom and discretion.

Let's get a revelation of who God made us to be and let's be just that.

And it is until we make God our priority and find Him in everything that concerns us, that we can truly find ourselves.

Let God define your life and be the reason you woke up this morning and want to wake up tomorrow too.

You are complete in Him.

Rest in Him.

May the Lord increase your understanding ...and mine.

Amen.