Adewumi Feyisayo Idowu
The society is always in a hurry to talk women into marriage
especially when they belong to a certain social class, a percieved marriageable
age and what have you. I have often pondered; is marriage all about age? Must
every female child put marriage as a priority as soon as she gradutes from the
University and has a good job? Don't get me wrong I'm not anti-marriage. The
Bible was clear about it; marriage is honorable.... I'm not contesting that
fact at all. What I am saying in very simple terms is this: every woman should
get married because God the Author of marriage is leading them and they are
ready to get married. Using myself as an example, most people around me are
worried that I'm not married when most of my age mates have stopped having
children. They have their concerns and I have mine!!! That's the truth. What
most people around me don't know is that I have a lot going on in my life and
marriage doesn't top that list. Firstly they don't know about my fears because
of what I have encountered as a child, in my years as a teen and as an evolving
adult. They don't know how hard it is for me to let go of the independence I
have enjoyed for a long time by virtue of being single. They don't know how I
want my finances to be very very stable. They forget that I have ambitions and
aspirations I have always prayerfully told God I want placed in the hands of a
man after His heart. The next time you are tempted to talk to a single sister
about marriage, pls be more committed to praying for them. Even before you pray
be very sure its what they desire most at the moment. Don't assume.
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