Every wise woman builds her house

Bimbola Tayo-Bamidele

"Every wise woman builds her house, but the foolish one tears it down with her hands." - Prov.14:1

We, women have a tendency to build everything but our "house". We build our career, business, marriage, husband, children, ministry, friendships but our "house".

 We are usually strong and powerful, always there for every other person but for ourselves. We give everyone and everything our all, expecting them to automatically return our gestures with what we "deserve" and when they don't, we feel used and feel like victims and start demanding "justice". We try to help everyone but ourselves.

"House" as I received the interpretation here, refers to our base, our essence, our abode, what we rest on, our foundation, from which every other thing extends.

Every wise woman does not leave her "house" to chance. She does not live the responsibility of building her base to others, not even her husband. She takes responsibility for her life, sanity, health, soundness and well-being. She is first there for herself and it is from that place of rest she has built for herself within herself that she extends to others, including her husband, children and every other thing.

Nobody will build your "house" for you woman, it is your personal responsibility to stay sane, healthy, sound and whole. Don’t attend to everything and everyone at the expense of your house. It is dangerous. Our strength, and capability should extend from a solid base/foundation that we have built within us or we crumble in no time, when faced with normal every day challenges that shake us to the very core of our being.

Let us start with ourselves. The whole world can wait. That is why our unmarried days are the best time for this. But even if we are married, it is not too late. After we are built, we can start reaching out to others from our rich resources ...not run on our default mode.

 God created us to be a Help. And the word "Help" gives an impression of someone richly equipped with everything it takes to help another. Things fall apart and we fall apart with them, only when we have refused to pay attention to our base. We build our children, our husband, career, business, ministry and weave our lives around them while leaving our "house" unattended to. We expect them to pay us back by building our house for us, in return for the help we render them, and because it is not theirs to do, we begin to see "unfairness" and begin to demand for equality and justice. When anything happens, we begin to feel like victims of circumstances simply because we have assumed we had our priorities right.

Many of us are not actively "plucking" down our house, but we do when we do not build automatically. When you are not actively and consciously building, you are plucking it down. When you leave it in its default mode and running it on automatic, you are plucking down your house with your hands.

 

The everlasting God is your refuge, underneath are His everlasting arms. Make God your base. Wisdom, wealth, health, strength and all other materials needed to build your house are in His hands. The fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom. Every woman that will be wise must have a good dose of the fear of the Lord to begin with. Your relationship with the Lord should be rich, sound and buoyant. Let it be your base, the foundation from which all other things extends from. Your relationship with God must not be traded for anything, for from it comes your very life. Emotional strength and stability, soundness of mind, clarity and wisdom are all benefits of a house well built. When God is at the centre, things can never fall apart... and when and if they do, you will not fall with them.

Are you a wise woman?

Build your house.

Nobody will do it for you. It is your personal responsibility to stay sane, healthy, sound and whole. Don't attend to everything and everyone at the expense of your house. It is dangerous. Our strength should stem from a strong base or we crumble in no time.

May the Lord increase your understanding and mine...

Amen.