Who is responsible for your happiness?

Adenike Morounke Adebola

22/07/2014

I read a speech supposedly given by a father to his son-in-law and his family during his daughter's wedding. He kept asking the son-in-law and his in-laws to keep his daughter happy. It seems like a great message, right? Sorry, dad (and his daughter), God didn't leave anyone's happiness in the hands of another. I searched the Scriptures for the word 'Happy' and found these beautiful scriptures...

"Behold, happy is the man whom God correcteth: therefore despise not thou the chastening of the Almighty:" (Job 5:17).

"Happy art thou, O Israel: who is like unto thee, O people saved by the LORD, the shield of thy help, and who is the sword of thy excellency! and thine enemies shall be found liars unto thee; and thou shalt tread upon their high places." (Deuteronomy 33:29).

"Blessed is every one that feareth the LORD; that walketh in his ways. For thou shalt eat the labour of thine hands: happy shalt thou be, and it shall be well with thee. Thy wife shall be as a fruitful vine by the sides of thine house: thy children like olive plants round about thy table." (Psalm 128:1-3).

"Happy is that people, that is in such a case: yea, happy is that people, whose God is the LORD." (Psalm 144:15).

"Happy is he that hath the God of Jacob for his help, whose hope is in the LORD his God:" (Psalm 146:5).

"Happy is the man that findeth wisdom, and the man that getteth understanding. She is a tree of life to them that lay hold upon her: and happy is every one that retaineth her." (Proverbs 3:13, 18).

"He that despiseth his neighbour sinneth: but he that hath mercy on the poor, happy is he." (Proverbs 14:21).

"He that handleth a matter wisely shall find good: and whoso trusteth in the LORD, happy is he." (Proverbs 16:20).

"Where there is no vision, the people perish: but he that keepeth the law, happy is he." (Proverbs 29:18).

"If ye know these things, happy are ye if ye do them." (John 13:17).Behold, we count them happy which endure. Ye have heard of the patience of Job, and have seen the end of the Lord; that the Lord is very pitiful, and of tender mercy." (James 5:11).

"But and if ye suffer for righteousness’ sake, happy are ye: and be not afraid of their terror, neither be troubled;" (1 Peter 3:14).

"If ye be reproached for the name of Christ, happy are ye; for the spirit of glory and of God resteth upon you: on their part he is evil spoken of, but on your part he is glorified." (1 Peter 4:14).

Sorry, Dad, as important as a husband's love and acceptance/love by in-laws are, God did not leave the responsibility for a woman's happiness to anyone. The key to your happiness has been given to US by God. Please erase the notion that you NEED another human to be happy.