Why do you want to get married?

Bimbola Tayo-Bamidele
07/01/2015

The Bible says, "Two are better than one"; it also says "Two cannot walk together except they agree."

My conclusion: "Two people that are in agreement are better than one." Amen.

 Why do you want to get married? Different people have different reasons for going into marriage. Some do because of societal expectations. Some do because their mates are married. Some do because they have been lonely all their life and want a companion. Some do because they want someone they can call their own. Some do because they want someone who will help with their house chores, and cooking. Some do because they want children. Some do because, "it is better to marry than to burn." Some do because they want someone who will save them from poverty and lack. Some do because they would like to be addressed as "Mr &Mrs.".

The reasons go on and on.

What is your own reason?

If you get married for the wrong reason, it is likely you get married to the "wrong person" (wrong person, not because they are bad in themselves; but wrong person, because you both do not agree - remember that, two cannot walk together except they agree).

Why do you want to get married? If you get this right, you will likely get married to the right person (Right person, not because they are "perfect" and will always "make you happy", or because they are finished products; but right person, because you both agree, and can walk together.)

What does it mean to agree; and agree on what, you may ask.

Does it mean you will think the same way, have same preferences, share same hobbies, have no reason to disagree, like the same kinds of food, etc? No.

God did not create us all the same. Even if He did, we did not all grow in the same environments... neither do we have same backgrounds.

Even if we did, we have different personalities and temperaments. In other words, we are all different. I have not yet seen two people that are exactly the same.

Nevertheless, there are some core values that we must share and agree on, if we must walk together. I tell you, this has nothing to do with you being born again or not; just the same way anyone that has the key to a room opens it... whether they are born again or not.

I have seen unbelievers who have been "happily" married for years and do not wish or plan to go their separate ways. You know why? Because they agree. They have mutual values they hold dear. They have common values they share. These values may not be biblical, but truth is, these values hold them together.

Why do we get married? The Bible says, "Two are better than one."

This tells me that despite our diversities and differences, two can walk together and yield better results when they agree. It tells me that despite our lack of uniformity, we can do much in unity. No matter how much you can achieve on your own, if someone agrees with you, you will do ten times more; following the principle of "one chasing a thousand, and two chasing ten thousand."

Does that mean every and any two will yield the ten thousand result? No. Only the two that walk together in agreement will.

It is better to walk alone and be assured of your one thousand result, than to walk with a "wrong person" and have no result.

What kind of result do you want in life? What is your purpose? If you do not get this right before getting married, you may not get marriage right (Well, it depends on the kind of marriage you want). It takes a purpose-driven marriage to stand the test of time; the test of personality clashes; the test of different approaches to getting the same results etc.

And a purpose-driven marriage consists of two purpose-driven individuals. In other words, it takes two purpose-driven individuals to make a purpose-driven marriage. With such, we cannot experience, or encounter "irreconcilliable differences".

That is why it is important to get it right from the beginning; because, if the foundation is faulty, the righteous will be helpless... except God intervenes.

 What do you look for in a marriage partner? Just one thing. It determines everything else: Your ability to walk together. That is the essence of marriage. If that factor is out of it, there is no point and no reason to get married. Two that are better than one, are two that can walk together. Remember that, "Two cannot walk together except they agree." Any two that agree, will walk together.

Now, what they agree on is unique to them.

They can agree to serve God, love God, and fulfill their purpose together. They can agree to stick to their marriage, make it work and enjoy it no matter what happens. Whatever, they must agree to walk together.

If you are a child of God and your priority in life is to fulfill God's purpose for your life, God can help you with that decision. Without Him, you don't even know what to agree on. It all begins with Him. For you, your marriage is not about you; it is about God... same as your life.

 It has been a lengthy post; I hope I made some sense and I hope you got my point?

May the Lord increase your understanding..